I had a bad week.

My mom did not get visa to come to U.S.

We did all the right things, writing the invitation letter, preparing 3 years tax return, banking statement, annual income statement, etc. However, the officer from the U.S. embassy did not even look at the paper work before she brutally said NO to my mom' request of visiting the States.

We were shocked the night we heard the news. No one understands the rationale behind the whole scene. I know mom is the person that feels the worst among all of us. She does not speak English, she has wonderful life in China, and the only reason she wants to come to see me (after 4 years I stayed in Chicago) is that she wants to see and help me on the her first grandchild.

Such is life and such is dilemma. We were told that "Do not mention the grandchild, otherwise you will get rejected". We thought it was ridiculous. Isn't that THE reason my mom needs to come to here? But hey, they are the agent who handles millions of application and they must be right. Besides, we really don't know how things would turn out vice versa.

I comforted my mom. I said: "Don't worry. So many American women handle well with their kids right after the birth, I can do it too. We will hire an in-home nurse and baby will be fine. Being healthy and happy is the best help and support you and dad can ever give me." I mean it. They brought me up and now it is my term to take the full responsibility to bring up my own.

Chinese parents are the BEST of the BEST. They devoted their whole life to their children and children of their children. Maybe they spoiled us and maybe they have too much expectation on us, but they are the best.

I wanna say, Mom, no matter where you are, I know you love me and I love you...

I spent 3 hours preparing the dinner.

Love Italian food. Eggplant Parmesan is one of our favorite, low fat version only...